Yes BUT….What if the circus keeps coming to me??? It has felt like the proverbial “Big Top” parked
in my front yard recently! Going to the circus has not been a choice. However, learning which “acts” to participate
in and which ones to walk past has been an eye-opening experience.
I have found that the moment the clowns (drama, illness, confusion,
chaos, turmoil) begin, I just need to stop for a moment, NO immediate reaction
required unless you are standing in traffic!
A deep breath and a few very simple questions to myself….What am I trying to
accomplish here?… How do I want this to end?… What makes the most sense?
The first thing is to identify and clarify
specifically and simply what I need in this situation. It is really nothing more than small short-term
goal setting. I cannot allow any emotions at this point, they only tend to confuse and redirect right now. I need to determine who, what words or which actions
will move me closer to what I need to accomplish? Regardless of the situation, getting
emotionally hurt, angry or making everyone happy rarely moves anything forward, in fact, I think it does the opposite, expending great deals of my own energy
while accomplishing nothing. I do not
want anyone to think I am a focused robot, but what I do know is that there will
be plenty of time to cry, lament, laugh etc. etc. afterward.
Although I have a
less than typical goal-oriented life, using the Daniel LaPorte’s goal techniques
of “Desire Mapping” and core desire feelings I will admit there are some
immediate situations that require the more traditional goals. So…bring on the circus….I can do this!
"The Tears of a Clown" Smokey Robinson
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