I will not lie….my Mother and I had a turbulent relationship!
Life choices that we both made created a
difficult, if not impossible Mother-Daughter relationship to develop.
But then there was another element that
entered into the difficulties…we both had preconceived notions about how and
what a Mother-Daughter relationship should be.
Without the emotional tools to develop our own unconventional relationship, we both depended on an unrealistic version of a combination of a religious Madonna
and “Leave it to Beaver” definition.
It
was an impossible task to live up to and we both failed miserably.
When we finally were able to admit to
ourselves and each other that we were truly inept at this Mother-Daughter thing
we were able to forgive and forget and move into an adult friendship that we could
define on our own terms.
It was not
perfect but, oh my it was so much better.
Letting go of other people’s expectations allowed us to enjoy each other
as fallible adults, more than I suspect most typical Mother-Daughter
relationships are capable of.
The
friendship was amazing but I will confess it is the Mother hugs that truly live
on in my heart and give me such strength. Here's to you Mother....your favorite!
"Take Five" Dave Brubeck
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