I thought I was doing it right...

I am just finishing her book “It’s OK, NOT to be OK”.  It has been an amazing new, or maybe old look at our culture’s inability to deal with grief and loss.  I am learning that everything I thought I knew about grieving and loss was mostly wrong.  That means when I thought I was doing everything right (based on what I thought I knew) I was truly doing everything wrong. There are no easy answers, there is no right way, there is no time limit, every loss is different and I am the only one that can figure out what is right for me.  But I will admit right here and now that it can change from day to day and then there are days that I am just too exhausted to deal with it.  However, I am learning that some of the things I do and feel that would typically fall under the heading of weird, macabre, self-centered and a host of other inappropriate behavior are in fact absolutely normal….we just do not want to talk or hear about it.

"Everybody's Talking" Nilson